Thursday, January 22, 2015

Dating After Divorce!!

It is indeed a scary thing! Not only am I having to start over and do this whole dating thing but I now have a 6 year old little boy who's heart I consider in everything I do. 
You see this time around it is different. I met my ex husband just after turning 18 and we dated a while before we were "just going to be friends" we stayed that way until my 21st birthday and moved in together shortly after that and married soon after that! Did the roller coaster of life together and now I am here ... A thirty something who never dated an adult that she didn't live with or was married to.  Before I was married I obsessed over whether guys liked me or not, and I took it personally if they didn't. I even adjusted my behavior ever so slightly to be more to their liking. This time I don't give a fuck!!! My attitude is, take it or leave it, this is how I am. 
I've done the stupid "kissin' frogs" and I've decided to put some real effort In this whole dating thing and I've learned that not everyone is going to like me and that's okay! 
Being divorced is not the same as being single. Unlike my Never Married Friends I am not trying to find the "one"! I tried that and it failed! This time I believe I have realistic expectations! I still believe in Gods timing much like I did the First time! I see this as a season in my life and when Gods timing is right I will be able to look back and say that I really enjoyed this season! 
Yes, I still believe in Love but I see it differently not the Happily Ever After that everyone dreams of but a life with a man makes every day an adventure someone that can't just enjoy life with you and you both understand where you have both been and agree where you both want to go and understand that a lasting relationship takes work but sometimes having that Happily Ever After takes you through dips and turns and you may be upside down at some points in this crazy journey we call life but I'm Looking for that Man who will hold my hand through it all!  Never letting go! 

Monday, January 5, 2015


My ideal man is a God fearing man and someone who embodies the term ‘dominant’ but looks at me as his equal. I will gladly kneel at the feet of the man who walks by my side. 
I want him to be my best friend, my lover, my favorite person to talk to, my biggest cheerleader, and my team mate! I want him to challenge me, encourage me, and talk me down off cliffs. I want someone who makes my life more interesting, makes me better, and loves me even when I’m not very lovable (which is a lot of the time). 
I want someone that can laugh with me and someone who can cry with me! I need a man that can be my rock when I need it but will also be vulnerable to allow me to help him when it's needed! I want someone who sees the beauty inside my soul and not just on the outside!  I want someone who isn't afraid to hurt my feelings but isn't being malicious about it! I need a strong man because I am a broken woman! I want someone who values my opinions and recognizes me and quirks and the amazing woman that I am. I need a man that builds me up on a regular basis. 
Last but not least I need a man that who excepts my package deal 2 for 1 and will be a good manly role model for Brody a man that my son can look at strive to be like! A man that sees how a man should love a woman and wants to mirror that in his future relationships. I need a partner who will love my son like his own and will understandably not take the role of his father but will be a strong enough man to know that he is loved and appreciated like a father.